This morning I was touched by Peter Pollock’s post I am NOT OK. In it he wrote:
In church this weekend I realized that I have lost my joy. I am tired and grouchy and stressed constantly. I no longer even have any joy or comfort in my salvation… All these thoughts… have made me question again my own ‘achievements’. Really, what have I ever done that really matters? … I’m feeling like I’m missing my calling, not achieving what I should be achieving.
I am struck by the authenticity of his post.
Authenticity is big today. Most leaders know that. So, most leaders are choosing to reveal more of their weaknesses and their struggles to people.
But here’s something I’ve noticed…
Almost always when pastors or authors or even bloggers talk about their failures and their struggles, they talk those that are in their past. It tends to be an “I was once like you. Here’s how I overcame it.” bit.
That’s not necessarily a bad thing. I think there is value in pastors and other leaders revealing they have had similar struggles, showing there is hope, and providing guidance on how to get to the other side.
But let’s be honest, usually when we talk about a struggle we’ve already overcome it’s not so much about revealing our weakness as it is talking about the strengths that helped us gain victory over the struggle, right?
That’s why it’s rare to hear someone say publicly, “I am NOT OK right now.”
The temptation is to think, “If I want people to follow me, they need to have confidence that I know what I’m doing.”
So, that’s why I give Peter a lot of props for being authentic about his struggles while still in the midst of them. I prayed for him, offered him some encouragement, and will continue to do so.
Do you think pastors and other Christian leaders should reveal their current struggles with the people they’re leading? Or do you think it’s better for everyone involved if they keep those things private?
Are you being open about your current struggles with those around you?
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